Loosing identity

People grow up people expand they travel and make new clans. This has been followed from ancient times. You read any mythology or ancient books related to some king or queen or God they always mention of migration of people from one place to another and gaining that place's identity. People loose their origin and take up new identity and this is how a whole new personality comes into the world.

Life has been so complicated for people of India that this very problem of identity has brought up the system of caste, creed and culture into existence. As per ancient descriptions people were defined on the basis of the work they did and not surnames so the caste term evolved. Say if you are a warrior you belong to Kshatriyas and if you work on gold or jewels you are a Soni or sonar. This was all fine until people started discriminating castes from uppers and lowers which definitely paved the way for Indian people to limit themselves from sharing talent, knowledge and even food!

As the decades passed by this separation entered our education system also and thus teaching the next gen of kids from child hood itself the differences of caste and the relevant facilities. The categories became more prominent like the scheduled castes and scheduled tribes for the tribal people or people migrated and had origin from not so famous cultures. Then came the general category of Open ness where all the people who  had a rich culture, religion, higher value and higher designations in the society. And some fell in OBC or the other backward class. This spread across each and every system of governance be it politics, administration or education. All the categorized people got concession in grades, jobs, admission to educational institutes except the one belonging to Open category.

This is a big irony... Ancient people made these segregation and they only made the concession system. Why?
And we keep reading the pledge where we say in India.. All my brothers and sisters are equal ..
What are we teaching ourselves for the first ten years of our education? That we separate the people based on caste their work, keep them away, give them concessions and still treat them like that of untouchables!!

So many partitions have been done in India.. First the region then religion like Hindu Muslim Christian etc.. Then the caste.. We keep following this for ages and promote for one India one nation. How will it be ever possible if we don't get rid of this whole confused policies?

I have grown in no different environment from the one described above but as I m taking minor steps into the world out there... I m realizing what we kept thinking we kept teaching ourselves needs a 180 degrees of shift.

People everywhere should not be given concession based on the caste or religion. Students and jobs should purely be admitted in organizations based on talent and other soft skills or leadership quality.

This whole discrimination system should be revamped or removed.

This change is necessary to make India as one or else india will remain divided and we will continue to fight for unity!

Making a better place to live is in our hands..... Jai Bharat..

Going Forward

                                  Reading an article on Facebook through Mashable on Indra Nooyi, the CEO and chairperson of Pepsico, the second largest food and beverage business in the world and ranked 13th (2014) by Forbes's list of World's 100 most powerful women in world made me put down my thoughts this early morning. She said in her interview (in the article by Mashable) that Women can't have it all even if they want to. This very thought made me go back and forth in the time, think of more examples around and see how women in my life are managing their life be it mom, aunt, neighbors, teachers or doctors etc. The thinking process made me more worried of how fast life is changing and how challenging it is going to be, the routine roles that a women is holding and executing day in and day out has not changed and it seems it wont change in future, yes the usual and powerful roles of been a daughter, mother, wife, friend, sister, mother-in-law, sister-in-law many more. And the roles that she has to play to out stand herself in the corporate world or her career are never ending.

                                  I don't want to brag about these roles played by women or how successfully they are managing these roles or how they are influencing young girls or young minds across globe but I want to focus more on how I, my friends, those around me in their mid 20s and those in their 30s or say we all women are going forward. The women who are married and who are on the point of getting married or lets just say singles are they really ready for what future has kept in store for them? Have we all started planning for the coming future to manage such leading roles in our lives and still keep "everyone" around us happy? This is and would be never-ending test of our life in which we would fail and pass, give satisfaction and get blamed from our very own people but tell me have we really set ourselves on the path of been multilevel, multi-role model?

                                 I am not afraid of getting into one of these as we have many examples to follow but I am worried from the inside that like me there would be many who would be thinking that whether we would be able to make it or some might think why me? why do only I have to face this. Some would be just taking their lives casually and fighting with time to manage all and some would be very smart and mature to understand before time and be proactive in it.
                                
                                As Indra Nooyi mentioned a memoire from her past of been named as President and the reaction to her by her mother who said she maybe president or leader in a company but at home she is still a wife, daughter, mother et al baffled me for minutes and now I think even if we do climb the ladder of success it is always going to be difficult to satisfy our family members or friends with whom we would be trying to manage every hour. Today we can enjoy movies, food and all other recreational activities or take our careers ahead under the privilege of our sweet and loving mother. We can happily fall sick and happily prepare deserts, lie on bed for hours, read novels and yet get our food on time, go to gym and job and yet be relaxed. Going Forward when this very role would be opposite, we would have to be the very essence of our family managing career, emotions, physique, strength, time, friends, people and I am just hoping that we go through this smoothly and safely.

                                There is no step by step instructions or guiding manual for the roles to be played be it for an actress, director of some company, a clerk, a teacher, a scientist or a housewife. As I had said earlier every women has to go through this and has to learn on her own on how to handle it all. We all would get some tips and tricks here and there but still to understand and follow and make one of them your own Golden rule is Charismatic power of yourself. You cannot expect for a miracle to happen everyday to make your life easy but you can build a self motivated and strong mechanism for yourself to start as baby steps and for next generation keep laying the foundation!

                                I wish that we all (women) going forward do manage to make it through be it the 21st or 22nd Century or the era of Information Technology or Media or Space.. we can make it through cause there is no other option to turn your back and just lead one single role throughout your life :-)

Drive to move Ahead

Today was a surprising day, surprising because I hadn't anticipated of a chance that I would get to learn driving or atleast the basics of it.

My friend came down to meet me in his car and we went roaming around to see some places around in his car, I asked whether he could teach me to drive and there he goes! He took the car off the main road onto an open field with no obstacles and trees.

I was shocked that he was giving me a chance to drive his car! Hurray! I couldn't wait to grab the steering wheel.

The lesson started with the A,B,C.. to fasten your seat belt, check the rear view mirrors and surroundings etc. This was quiet easy to understand but very difficult to follow cause the moment you start driving you tend to forget these basics. Then know your gears.. 1-5 and the reverse and how to apply them with help of clutch. Yes driving Activa will never teach you of the clutch so it was very very difficult for me to understand the role of the clutch and brakes in Car or Bikes and the speeds associated with them. Its not confusing but simply when to use and how is difficult.

The next step was to bring the engine to life but before that you have to make sure the gear is in neutral state, hand brake is removed and you don't forget your ABCs.. Accelerator, Brake Clutch.. from right to left.

You turn on the car and there.. whoa!.. it was exciting to hear the engine start, I knew i can make it.
Then the story of Clutch, Gear and brake started step by step. Boy it is so difficult to understand and drive.
It is scary for a newbie to see you drive even at the speed of 5 km/hr... lol yes its stupid but even in second gear and just 15/20 km/hr makes you scream loud and go crazy. I don't know how my friend handled my reactions and still taught me to move ahead since i drove as many as four to five circles round and round and round in first gear and second gear little bit.
Now i can smoothly start the car, drive in first gear and that's it! Yeah, he taught me more but I ended up with only those.
The most difficult thing was the braking and moving ahead part especially on a slope or if you are in a traffic. Not to let you car go back and make it stand still and move it ahead whenever you want to. This as per my understandings took me a long time to gulp and react. In the process I made so many mistakes, I either went ahead with acceleration or put the gear in second or put brakes without checking anything. I laughed and laughed so madly that I knew i cannot do this and I need a break.
Hahahaha.. i drove for so long and i was saying that's it, instead of moving ahead.
Next What!
Thanks to my friend.. and his patience.. he made me move ahead.. I had to learn the brake clutch system.
and I did but the only thing is I might forget it ;-)

It was exciting and one of a kind experience to learn to drive yet I would need more confidence to move ahead on my own as its not so easy as it sounds or as it seems.
I wonder how he or any other person sitting in driver's seat not only drives carefully with smoothness but also attend phones, talk, chat and share, watch, laugh, fight or play...

One day even I will be in that driver's seat doing all those things,

yet to picture myself that way..

Now next step was to drive with Confidence and not forget the ABCs of driving and then move on to next sessions.. no he wont be teaching me the next but atleast I would be sure to cover these steps smoothly if I enroll for a driving class in the near future.